Presenter: |
Mary E. Connors, Ph.D., ABPP |
Chair: |
Bernard Brandchaft, MD |
Discussant: |
Peter A. Lessem, PhD |
Self Psychology Page | 20th Conference Program
Recently self psychologists have been attempting to account for a phenomenon often seen clinically; namely, that many individuals choose to remain in relationships that offer a paucity of selfobject experiences. There may be dimensions of relatedness that are not adequately addressed by traditional selfobject theory, including a propensity to maintain connection with important others despite the painful nature of the relationship. I propose that attachment theory can help illuminate this area of relationship seeking. Attachment needs, although similar to selfobject needs in some ways, focus on the provision of a sense of safety and security via connection to a particular attachment figure. Moreover, the attachment bond is seen as essential for survival. A large body of research and theory has identified different patterns of attachment which have implications for relational behavior in adulthood. Understanding insecure attachment can foster an empathic appreciation of patients' behavior in relationships from a subject-centered listening perspective. Attachment concepts are compatible with a self psychological perspective and would provide a stronger developmental framework for theory about self and other.